What's a meantime girl?
She's the one you call when you're bored because she makes you laugh.
She's the one you talk to when you're feeling down because she's willing
to lend an ear and be a friend.
She's not the one you call when you need a date to your company's Christmas
party, or to go dancing with on a Saturday night.
She's the one you spend time with between girlfriends, before you find
"The One". You know, the one who you keep around in the meantime.
She's not one of the guys, not a tomboy, but you don't look at her as
a "real" woman, either.
She's not bitchy enough, moody enough, or sexy enough to be seen in that
She's too laid-back, too easily amused by the same things your male buddies
are amused by.
She's too understanding, too comfortable - she doesn't make you feel nervous
or excited the way a "real" woman does.
But she's cool, and nice, and funny, and attractive enough that when you're
lonely or horny and need intimate female companionship, she'll do just
You don't have to wine and dine her because she knows the real you already,
and you don't have any facades to keep up, no pretenses to preserve.
You're not trying to get anything of substance out of her.
She's not easy, but you know that she cares about you and is attracted
to you, and that she'll give you the intimacy you need.
And you know you don't have to explain yourself or the situation, that
she'll be able to cope with the fact that this isn't the beginning of
a relationship or that there's any possibility that you have any real
romantic feelings for her.
It won't bother her that you'll get up in the morning, put on your pants,
say goodbye, and go on a date with the woman you've been mooning over
for weeks who finally agreed to go out with you.
She'll settle for a goodbye hug and a promise to call her and tell her
how the date went.
She's just so cool . . . why can't all women be like that?!
But deep down, if you really think about it (which you probably don't
be cause to you, the situation between the two of you isn't important
enough to merit any real thought), you know that it's really not fair.
You know that although she would never say it, it hurts her to know that
despite all her good points and all the fun you two have, you don't think
she's good enough to spend any real time with.
Sure, it's mostly her fault, because she doesn't have to give in to your
needs - she could play the hard-to-get bitch like the rest of them do,
if she really wanted to.
But you and she both know that she probably couldn't pull it off.
Maybe she's too short, or a little overweight, or has a big birthmark
on her forehead, or works at Taco Bell.
Whatever the reason,somehow life has given her a lot of really great qualities
but has left out the ones that men want (or think they want) in a woman.
So she remains forever the funny friend, the steadfast companion, the
secret lover, and you go on searching for your goddess who will somehow
be everything you ever wanted in a woman.
You'll joke to her that she should be the best man at your wedding, and
she'll laugh and make a joke about a smelly rental tux.
She doesn't captivate you with her beauty, or open doors with her smile.
Mainly she blends in with the crowd. She's safe. She doesn't want to be
the center of attention and turn the heads of everyone in the room.
But she wants to turn someone's head. She wants to be special to someone,
too. We all do.
She has feelings. She has a heart. In fact, she probably has a bigger
and better heart than any woman you've ever known because she's had a
front-row seat to The Mess That Is Your Life, and she likes you anyway.
She obviously sees something worthwhile and redeeming in you because although
you've given her nothing, absolutely no reason to still be around, she
Anyway, yeah. I'm a Meantime Girl. Been one more times than I care to
I don't know the reason, really, and at this point I don't even care.
I just want to let every guy know who's ever had the good fortune to have
a Meantime Girl that we may be a lot of fun, but we cry, too. A lot.
And someday we won't be around.
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